Category Archives: Living Dharma

So I have been avoiding the news lately

There is no point pretending the news these days is any good. There is no point dwelling on it either.

Yesterday before work I was really upset by what I saw on the TV. This is why I do not have TV at home. People around me talking about the shut down, the shooting and something about a biker beating.

At home when things get tense and hard to handle, I tell them I quit. I quit the negativity. “Everybody Love Everybody,” is the first rule in our house.

Sadly I can’t do that when I am out in the world. Lord knows sometimes I just want to scream and yell. “Everybody love Everybody!!!’

So rather than making a spectacle of my self at work, I made this facebook post:

There is so much misinformation out there. So much anger, so much violence, and terror. Our government says it has a war on terrorism but they seem to be the worst ones. They say trust us, but they lie so much I can not tell what is true any more. I read what I can, and think for myself, but sometimes it is so conflicting that all I can think is that this must be some doublespeak. People joke that it is 1984, but it really is. I fear saying too much out loud, because there just maybe some Hall of Love out there somewhere.

People are literately dying in the streets under police rule… Whats next? We have always been called the new Rome, and just as Rome fell, so we do now…

This is no longer the land of the free and home of the brave that so many great people fought for. Regardless of race, religion, or political view: This country is broken. It can only be rebuilt on peace, love and compassion. I teach my children these values, but who knows what good it will do them as we are forced into indentured slavery…

Is it already to late to stop it? Who will save us now? Can we still stand together and save or selves, or is the house just too divided?

IF not for you, make a better world for your children and grandchildren… Hurry, there are no more places to run…

Please forgive the typos. I was upset and almost late for work. I was a little tired too.

Personally I do not care what side of the shut down you are on. I do not care your politically affiliations, or your religion, race or even gender. What I care about is that we are hurting as a nation. Really we are hurting as a world. All humans are hurting because of lack of love and compassion…

I was going to post about homemade vinegar today…I want to go back to bed. I can’t so I will leave everyone with these words…



Truth is Truth = Dharma is Dharma

Recently a friend of mine used scripture found in the Bible to describe his feelings about what is going on in Syria. He added no other comment, just beautiful words about healing people.

“And his fame went throughout all Syria: and they brought unto him all sick people that were taken with diverse diseases and torments, and those which were possessed with devils, and those which were lunatic, and those that had palsy; and he healed them.” Matthew 4:23-25

This was facebook, so of course many people replied with their feelings about everything going on in the news. One reply said, “I don’t think they are trying to heal anyone.” Someone else wisely said, ‘Maybe someone should.”

What stuck with me though, is someone saying it was weird that he posted a Bible verse. I have known this guy since I was young. We grew up calling him Buddha, and only part of that was because he was a big guy. We also lived in a very Christian town. It is Texas after all. It was so overbearingly Christian, that many of the people I know from school have become atheist or even just anti-religion.

Me I see nothing wrong with him quoting scripture. He does it often, but it is mostly Zen teachings or Buddhist teachings. It has been really bothering me that people reacted the way they did, I even meditated on it.

As I was meditating I heard the sound of a bell, and a thought came to me, “Truth is Truth, because a bell sounds the same, no matter who rings it.”


The word most often used in Buddhism for teachings or scripture is Dharma. It means simply; Truth, or that which endures. If a teaching is enduring, there mush be truth to it. So Dharma is enduring truth.

Dharma is Dharma

Here is a thought:

I have a thought experiment for you. Read some religious teachings from a different religion this week. If you are Buddhist read some of the Bible. If you are Christian read the Torah or the Koran. If you are atheist read some Hindu texts.

Really it does not matter what you read, just read something outside of your comfort zone. Read a message of peace and love that you are not familiar with.

If we are always in Our comfort zone, we never have room to grow!

You do not have to agree with me, but it is always good to let yourself look at something in a new way.

Depression is a symptom of something else


Lately I have been dealing with depression. I have felt times of hopelessness. This morning as I realize this depression is a symptom of fear. All depression is rooted in fear, and attachment.

Feeling down and sad is okay and natural, but deep clinical depression is not. We make excuses but in truth there is something deeper that needs to be dealt with.

I used to start each morning with Dharma and Zen studies. I used to meditate daily. I am not sure when this stopped. So here I am sad, and hopeless feeling. I decided to look up Zen teachings about depression. I did not find any, rather I found, “The seeds to happiness.”

Well of course I did. By focusing on the depression I just brought more. I want joy! I shall plant those seeds!

There is no path to happiness,

Happiness is the path…

So today I take a new breath. I decide to be happy! I choose Joy!

Tonight I shall sit Zazen, and remind myself why I do what I do.

Zazen is a form of meditation popular in Zen. It is the practice of staring at a blank wall.

Living Dharma: I promise not to make this a Buddhist Mommy Blog

Dharma is often referred to as the teachings of The Buddha. Although this is true, it is not the meaning of the word. It was explained to me that Dharma means “That which sustains.” Dharma is anything that can hold true forever. Truth in the purest form is Dharma. Perception of the truth may change, but the truth will always be what it is.

Living Dharma is an idea of living your day to day life in truth and by the teachings in Buddhism. This is something I strive for. I am Buddhist, but I do not want this blog to be about that. I am not a teacher of Buddhism, but I do teach my children to think with the Dharma in mind, and I teach by example. So although this may not be a Buddhist blog, it is one written by a Buddhist.

The beautiful thing about Buddhism, is that it is more a way of life, than a religion. As the Dalai Lama says, “Do not study Buddhism to be a better Buddhist, study it to be a better what ever you already are.”


Let me tell you a story of about my Living Dharma:

Life goes on, until is doesn’t anymore. There is no truer Dharma than that. The good, the bad, the ugly, the sweet, the wonderful, it all just is. Bad times come, but they do pass. Good Times come, but they pass too. It is our reaction to them that makes everything what it is. Perception is key here. It can change everything.

I have many health problems, that I do not wish to get into here. I have another blog that deals with that. Because of these problems I hit a dark depression and due to the medication I was on I slept all the time. I have a very good friend with many of the same issues along with chronic pain. I asked her how she dealt with all of this with out her medicine. She told me Buddhism and weed. (She has medical marijuana.)

So I studied the Dharma, and after a lot of thought, and meditation I decided to become Buddhist. The philosophy is sound, and to me it just makes more sense. It has nothing to do with God, or a higher power. That is between me and the divine. Buddhism is more about how to live life. I have read, and studied, and enjoyed many Dharma talks.

One day I was talking to another Buddhist and he asked me what type of Buddhist I was. Like all religions there are many sects and types of Buddhists. Each one with it’s own rules and dogma. I hate dogma and that was always one of my biggest issues with other religions. So I told him I was unaffiliated. He was mad and confused by this. I told him some of my favorite Dharma and pointed out there was no need for a sect. Dharma is Dharma, it does not matter the source. He told me I should be Zen.

I do like Zen Buddhism and find many teachings I love. Like, “Fall six times, stand up seven.” I prefer nondogmatic though. When I found Buddhist Boot Camp I fell in love with the idea! Not long after that I discovered Hardcore Zen. I admit I do enjoy Alan Watts, so maybe I am a Zen Buddhist, but really it does not matter.

I would rather just be a nice person.

Is it just me or does Alan Watts kinda look like Ra’s al Ghul?

For those who don’t know: Ra’s Al Ghul is a batman character. He is as much a friend and mentor to the Dark Knight as a villain.